How to trust your own heart

A dispatch from inside the descent

I have followed the path of other people’s certainty more times than I want to admit.

The reason it felt easy to do that was that I always had a name for it that sounded to me like a virtue. Adaptable. Flexible. Open-minded. I left school and followed an ex-partner to another country for a year to be on his timeline. I quit a job I really liked because …